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Old Mar 10, 2020, 06:06 AM
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Originally Posted by ZazaJ View Post
Hi,


I'm married to a great guy. I have a depression that comes and goes.


From early in our relationship, I found his communication style aggressive and abusive. I tried to raise it a few times, but he said it was all in my head because of depression and because I dont know how to have a healthy confrontation (agree with last part).


Is it possible that even though I feel emotionally abused, it's not actually an abuse?


I feel very confused.
It's called gaslighting when you confront the abuse, and they turn it into something else which makes you question your own sense of reality. He also turned the problem around onto YOU, which is emotional abuse.

Typically, if you suspect it's abuse, it most likely is abuse. And from the little you described, it is abuse.
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