HaveHope, very glad you've had time alone with your husband.

His behaviour is most likely because they are elderly. It's unfortunate, even if elderly relatives are not suffering from dementia, that they often behave this way. Who knows why they lose their inhibitions or have a skewed view of life. Many say they revert to being childlike.

Family dynamics change because of age or different behaviour, which is often used to excuse their actions. Can empathise with how you felt when your weight was mentioned, that's too personal. My mother constantly criticises me. Her sister and my brother accept the behaviour, putting it down to her poor health and old age. Bearing the brunt, I'm less sympathetic especially when she's having a go at me for their inactions. What's amazing is all the bad things she can remember!