I've been where you're at, hon.

You're with the "right one", at least for now, and I don't feel that we should take on more weight knowingly.

I agree that you need to evaluate the marriage and if it's decided that it's over, then end it before ever considering entertaining another man.

Our lives are already too complicated and difficult without knowingly walking into something to add to it, I think.

That said, I appreciate the look, nod, smile, flirt, appreciation of a decent looking (not just or only physically decent looking) man. I always have and probably always will. There's nothing wrong with that in my book.

However, I put ten times that effort into what I got at home first and foremost.

I don't take it farther than that, though, and won't....didn't when younger either. If I can't manage the relationship I have, then what would I be thinking to try to get another one at the same time???

I firmly believe when we're working on our relationships, that if we put one-tenth the effort into the existing one as it would take to maintain a new one (in either staying together or splitting amicably), we'd sail smoothly most of the time (of course that's on both ends)...

Just my thoughts...

Good luck, hon.

KD