I wanted to add here that I did not know there was a problem, my husband did not know he had a problem because he binged. People tend to think of this problem being someone who needs to drink and get drunk everyday. While some are like that, there are others that just binge. It's what happens WHEN they drink and WHY they drink too. There are a lot of functioning alcoholics out there, they are not always stumbling down drunk. Once I was educated in recognizing the problem, I did not just choose to ignore it. I did say, either do something about it or I am done.

That is why I named this thread "the ELEPHANT in the relationship". It is a BIG problem that often is not discussed and even overlooked.