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Old Mar 11, 2020, 11:50 AM
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Originally Posted by ZazaJ View Post
I'm not perfect... what I mean by this is that I never measure up to his expectations. The list is exhaustive... He actually told me and I have a list of all the things that need improvement...


I feel that he loves me and I hope that it all comes from a place of love, like "I believe in you and you can be better ". Maybe he doesn't realize that his best intentions are hurting me and make me feel like he's controlling almost all aspects of my life. I've become very resentful and sensitive about anything that feels like control by him
He is telling you a list of things you need to improve about yourself? And you're buying into this list?

That IS controlling behavior on his part. Not only that, but it's demeaning and demoralizing. It's making you feel badly about yourself. He should love you just as you are, not as how he wants you to be.
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