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Originally Posted by ZazaJ
Thank you all! Verbalizing my feelings and thinking about your replies made me realize the above. This fits into his personality... I want to talk to him about it in that specific key. I really need to try.
And if I'm mistaken, then my heart will break as it will mean that he's manipulating and controlling on purpose.
I hope with all my heart for the best.
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When you talk to him, just don't expect him to admit to doing anything on purpose.
He may also turn it around on you again, just as he's done before, and he may try to make you think it's YOU and your depression talking.
IF he does that, look up the term "gaslighting", which is a form of abuse and an abuse tactic.
He also most likely will deny being controlling of you in any way, as all abusers do.
It may break your heart, but it will also be eye opening to you how he responds. The more you can educate yourself on abuse tactics and the abusive personality traits, the better off you will be and the more objective you can be about this.
Hugs to you.
