I have dealt with someone who went on the attack with me simply because I pointed out things in their behavior that rubbed me the wrong way. I would call this person a difficult person. This person did not own up to their behavior when confronted, just as they have done many times before with me, and instead responded by listing every little thing they felt I had done "wrong" in their mind, as though they were deliberately TRYING to poke holes into my self esteem and TRYING to make me feel wrong and badly about myself. I do believe this person is a full blown narcissist. Only a true narcissist will respond in this kind of way when confronted or when told they hurt you. It's not the first time with this person either. They've acted this way every single time I've said "ouch" because of their actions towards me. They turn it around and deflect all responsibility off of themselves. It took me months to figure it out, but this is where I land with it. Not only that, but this person is very passive aggressive and uses indirect means to get back at me for hurting their largely inflated ego. It's narcissism at its worst.