The other irony is this person is obsessed with narcissists, and it turns out they are one themselves. I finally figured it out, and I finally put all the pieces together. This person constantly ranted about themselves and their own traumas, this person has an extremely high opinion of their own opinions to the point of nausea-inducing, and this person refuses to take any personal responsibility when they've hurt or upset you and they deflect it all back onto you. I finally had had enough, and cut ties.

Why can’t narcissists take responsibility for their actions?

"Narcissists are deceptive because they can be so charming and intelligent until you don’t go along with their program. Then they become cold, punching, and rejecting. On the surface narcissists can seem intelligent and caring—knowing how to entice and lure their way into your life. Their motto will always be “Me First!” Everything’s all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, crave admiration and attention. They can also be highly intuitive, but use their intuition for self-interest and manipulation.

Narcissists are so dangerous because they lack empathy, have a limited capacity for unconditional love. Sadly, their hearts either haven’t developed or have been shut down due to early psychic trauma, such as being raised by narcissistic parents, a crippling handicap both emotionally and spiritually. (The damage of narcissistic parenting is outstandingly detailed in Alice Miller’s book “Drama of the Gifted Child”). Hard as it may be to comprehend, these people have little insight into their actions, nor do they regret them. Narcissists will always make the problem about YOU and don’t take their responsibility for their part in any issue."

Why can't narcissists take responsibility for their actions with empaths? - Judith Orloff MD