Part of the challenge with this can actually be due to the person who turns to alcohol to self medicate their challenge with emotional regulation that presents with ADHD and Dyslexia too. What I had noticed over the years in supporting my husband's sobriety was noticing the high percentage of individuals in the AA rooms that struggled with ADHD and Dyslexia. And YES, these individuals can actually become very arrogant as you have described. YET, they can also be very caring and kind as well.

It's unfortunate that a lot of individuals struggle with ADHD and even Dyslexia and go undiagnosed and struggle along dealing with the challenges they have and they never get the right help.

Recently I had a couple experiences where I was "shamed" and it brought up some things I struggled with and often faced alone and was shamed and shunned for. I struggle with complex ptsd that definitely has this dynamic in it. I grew up witnessing my older brother literally abused because of his "behaviors" due to his ADHD and Dyslexia. People don't realize that in my generation all that was focused on was the behaviors and many faced shaming and abuse when they instead should have been helped, however, the awareness about these challenges simply was non-existant.

I have wanted to talk about this for a really long time now tbh. The problem I had was to find a way to talk about it expressing how things affected me and at the same time to do so respecting others who have these problems and have made it a point to do something about it.

I wanted to talk about this so called Elephant and yet also touch on some things that contribute to this Elephant. We tend to like to see things in black and white, yet the REALITY is there really IS a lot of important GRAYS.