Sometimes what is important to pay attention to Zaza is where your own mind goes too. You have some ideas of what things mean to you, yet it's not what he is saying but how you take it.

Understand that when you sit and talk to him like you did, he may forget or only remember part of what you said. It's not your failing, it's often just something he forgot.

I remember when it was explained to me how much my daughter was able to remember. The specialist said to me, "you can tell her 10 things and she will only remember 3 or 4 and swear you never said the other things". I felt JUST AWFUL when I was told that because I used to argue with her about her not remembering. I supported her riding and competing with horses, and I began to notice she always remembered the courses of jumps. There were 8 jumps and she remembered them all and never went off course. So I asked her how she remembered and she said "Oh, it's easy I do it like this "1, 2,3, and 4,5,6, then 7,8 and done. She figured out how to remember/memorize in threes. I thought that was amazing that she figured out how to remember that way. Yet, the thing to remember is the challenge doesn't mean lack of intelligence, often the IQ is actually very high. Now, I pointed that out because in their minds they DO organize things a certain way so they can function. And, her not remembering the way I had expected did not have anything to do with her not respecting me or that I was doing something wrong or failing, instead I needed to understand HER and how she functions/her wiring.