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Old Mar 13, 2020, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro View Post
Exactly. This is narcissism as you already mention. You can’t win against a narcissist, the only way to win is by running away.
I have to confess that I run away even from those who are not narcissist but have some traits.
They make me feel very uncomfortable and with a big sensation of emptiness.

I’m like you. I put up with a person who is a true friend than dealing with lots of superficial friends or acquaintances.
Yeah, I hear you on that. And I know what you mean when you say you're left with a large sensation of emptiness.

I feel just.... well,I feel cheated of justice when I come across a narcissist... cheated of fairness and reciprocity that you normally would experience in a normal friendship that is give and take, you know? The narcissist drains a person.... and they anger a person, even to the point of enraging a person. They need to focus ALL the attention on themselves, and since I am a very giving type of person and an empath, well that's a recipe for disaster for me. I end up feeling very cheated of what a real friendship should involve.

And yes, I feel it's definitely better to have a lower number of high quality friends, true friends, than to have a high quantity of superficial friendships. I've always been that way, and as a result, I have just a few really close friends. But they are true friends who would be there for me for anything and vice versa. Quality counts!
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Thanks for this!
AzulOscuro