I read a lot of posts here at PC and other places about clients who describe different situations of getting hurt by their therapists.


To perhaps ease the feeling of being hurt and disappointed it might be of help to put some perpective to what you're currently feeling.


* You share your story with a lot of clients and you could compare your story with theirs and find several similarities and by that feel less lonely in what you go through.


* Your therapist has 10-20-30 or more clients besides you and can´t and doesn´t think about you in the same way as you think of him/her. You´re worth much more than spending time thinking about a therapist who can´t (and shouldn´t) reciprocate.

* Your problems are very important to you and matters a lot and you have the right to get understanding about what you go through. But your therapist has most probably already heard about a similar problem like yours and he/she isn´t affected by that problem. By that, you should be prepared you won´t get the understanding you need.

Don´t rely on a therapist when feeling lonely, upset, sad and so on as your therapist can´t do anything about it. Relying on a therapist when in a vulnerable state will imply a huge risk to get hurt. I say that partly from my own experiences but especially from all stories I´ve read written by sad and hurt therapy clients.