So my question is.....why make friends with people till you know what they are like?
When I meet people I am friendly just not friends. I observe for awhile before I decide whether they are the kind of person I can or want to become friends with. They are probably doing the the same thing with me. The distance exists because it is more of an acquaintance situation. That way if I realize there is no kind of connection, there is no drama of breaking up a friendship. If we become friends, it is a mutual feeling about friendship. Saves a lot of grief & drama in ones life