I asked the last question because when a woman walks away from physical abuse she deserves to feel safe and not punished for needing to feel safe.

The other behavior that has to be dealt with is if there is any problem with alcohol. If either of you is using alcohol to self medicate and use as a crutch the drinking will take over and you will lose control of the abuse pattern behavior. And often the alcohol fuels and lets out the angry insecure part that can emotionally abuse and even strike out.

So these two things I have pointed out to you are very important.