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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
His approach sounds borderline unprofessional and definitely sloppy regarding remote sessions. It is not a client's responsibility to alert him to the fact that he is losing focus. Nor is it appropriate for him to be on his laptop whilst also on the phone to a client. Does he use his laptop in session whilst he is speaking to you face-to-face? I assume not, so why would he do so during a phone session? I hear you being accepting by empathising that you do similar things with your mother, but you speaking to your mother is categorically different to him speaking to a client. These kinds of comments would have pissed me off royally.
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Yeah, it did bother me some. Because I feel like now if I do have a video session with him, I'll be paying attention to whether he's...paying attention. He's generally very focused and attentive during sessions, though there are occasions, like last session, where he's been like, "Oh you just reminded me of something, I need to write it down really quickly so I don't forget." Which I'm like, "OK" but still a bit frustrating. I know it's not something about me, it's like "Get milk on the way home."
I think this is one of those cases where he's talking to me more like a friend than a client for a moment. He said early on in my seeing him that he has some long-term clients where he becomes more relaxed and familiar with them and sometimes has to suddenly remind himself during session that he's talking to them as a therapist, not a friend. Sometimes I think he's a bit too open about his shortcomings...