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Old Mar 17, 2020, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Yeah, it did bother me some. Because I feel like now if I do have a video session with him, I'll be paying attention to whether he's...paying attention. He's generally very focused and attentive during sessions, though there are occasions, like last session, where he's been like, "Oh you just reminded me of something, I need to write it down really quickly so I don't forget." Which I'm like, "OK" but still a bit frustrating. I know it's not something about me, it's like "Get milk on the way home."

I think this is one of those cases where he's talking to me more like a friend than a client for a moment. He said early on in my seeing him that he has some long-term clients where he becomes more relaxed and familiar with them and sometimes has to suddenly remind himself during session that he's talking to them as a therapist, not a friend. Sometimes I think he's a bit too open about his shortcomings...
I know something of that "talking to me as a non-client" mode. It is a double edge sword: oooo, we are relating as something other than professional AND ouch this is difficult because we are relating as something other than professional. I would also be vigilant about his attention during a potential video session. Is it worth raising this with him or are these relational matters all rabbit holes which are endless and exhausting? I don't know the answer for myself.
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