I am so sorry this is happening to You and your Husband, @Catie96! It seems REALLY painful! I completely agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters. I can certainly understand you being upset by the porn and especially by him using that dating app. I definitely feel like it'd be best for you to talk to him about ALL of this and see how it goes from there. Hopefully he will understand what you mean and you'll both be able to reach an agreement or conclusion. I also highly recommend seeing a Couple Counsellor if he's willing to. I feel like that would REALLY help both of you! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @Catie96, ALL of Your Family, ALL of Your Friends, Your Husband and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK, MY DEAR, SWEET, KIND, AWESOME, WISE, SAGE, SMART, INTELLIGENT, THOUGHTFUL, REFLECTIVE AND WONDERFUL FRIEND?!