This and "come on, don't be so nervous, there's nothing to be nervous about, just relax" when I try my best to not run and pretend I'm very nice and sociable (Even though that means just standing and anxiously smiling) -THIS IS PURE HORROR. I won't become chill just because somebody has told me to relax. I won't start chit-chatting just because somebody has asked why am I so quiet/shy,etc. Remarks like these do not anything but make me feel worse and inferior as my "secret" has been revealed. I must admit most of the time I'm not ok with myself being this quiet and I wish nobody would notice that. I know it's stupid and you must accept yourself as you are but it's not easy. I am trying to accept myself but it's difficult to change one's thinking patterns, especially if they are almost as old as you!