She calls on him to fix her TV. This has happened twice since we've been together and married. He has to go over to her house to reconnect/fix the TV and cable for her, because only he knows how to do it. She also still calls his parents once in a while, and texts my husband on the anniversary of his brother's death. And last night she texted my husband to tell him that he and "his family", not me, are in her prayers during this tough and tumultuous time.

My husband still has a set of crystal at his old house/now her house, so he doesn't want to rock the boat by not replying to her. The last time she called on him to fix the TV, I said that we're married now and that I don't want this rescue mission and damsel in distress routine to continue. He made it clear then that she is not to contact him for anything other than out of necessity.

Granted, yes, it's tough times and she wanted to reach out to make sure he's ok. But of course, I wasn't mentioned in her message, which kind of alerted me and got to me.

I am just really irked by the whole thing and want her to leave us and him alone. Is that too much to ask for? That his ex wife truly be the ex and out of his life completely? Especially since she was severely abusive to him and the fact that they don't have children together? Is it too much to ask that the past be in the past?