We’re going to try this next week and I’m anxious already. It’s a very triggering format for me, which I haven’t told him due to shame, and doubtful I will share it, so I’m quite scared to be honest. I want to try to push myself to face triggers but I am afraid as I don’t really cope well with managing triggers and the effects linger for a long time. Not really quite sure how to proceed, but I did say I was amicable to trying. It doesn’t feel safe. If he wasn’t a man I wouldn’t be feeling this anxious. It’s the first time his gender has been a huge concern for me. Would really like to know someone else relates because I’m finding this quite isolating and feel like only I have this stupid trigger.