Oh, it definitely is. I took peoples' advice earlier and blocked and deleted him and he's not welcome with my friends and family any longer. But, he created a gazillion new accounts and the begging and pleading began. I gave in and said hi. I did set some boundaries, which seem to be holding for now. Sleep for one. I was becoming horribly sleep deprived giving into his begging me to stay or talk longer and longer. I'm still getting the threats to self harm if I don't sleep with him. The fears of abandonment are still ever present where I could take a call or step away and it's a huge issue.

I did check into legal options, but they don't see him as a threat to me right now. I don't want him to get into trouble and I would be happy to still have him as a friend only, but he is dead set on having his trophy girlfriend, soon to be wife. My logic of my providing everything into a relationship while he does nothing doesn't seem to phase him. He and his family think they have struck it rich.