@sarahsweets, I don't feel I need to give an ultimatum. He's really just tried to keep the peace for the sake of being able to retrieve his belongings without trouble and grief, and he did offer to cut off contact once he gets the crystal out of her house. IF he doesn't cut off contact at that point like he says he will, I will definitely be putting my foot down and will be insistent. I am adamant that this woman needs to go away, leave us/him alone and move on with her life. It's totally inappropriate to continue contacting him.