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Default Mar 20, 2020 at 01:05 PM
 
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Originally Posted by SummerTime12 View Post
Problem is, I’m scared that I won’t be strong enough to set that boundary if he doesn’t do it, even if it’s past my comfort point. I’ve been attracted to him for so long that I feel like my judgment is clouded now.
Thank you for sharing that. I’m concerned for you.

This is a common issue in boundary crossing and boundary violations. It makes us feel special when the T shares intimate information or compliments us. We want to know more. Most people like compliments and feeling special. You are not alone in that.

How about setting the boundary now? Can you tell him these types of conversations bother you and need to stop?
If you don’t feel you can set any boundaries in this relationship, you need to get out.

Therapy should be about your needs and deal with the issues that brought you to therapy. If you find another therapist you might find one that can help you set boundaries with others.

I send my best wishes to you.

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