Hey Anna,

Glad to see you're doing well and moving out into your own place. I think you sort of answered the question yourself. You know this is about her and her abandonment issues. What does your therapist say about it? I mean, you can't force her to respond to you. I think you can only leave the ball in her court. Maybe be understanding since you know she is struggling with her own issues. It also sounds like maybe she was a little dependent on you, and she wanted you to stay, maybe for her own support, and you leaving feels like leaving her behind. I'd focus on your friends who are there for you right now and even making new friends and building healthy relationships. You can still text her every now and then and let her know you're there if she ever feels like she can reach out again.

I think there's a line though where you can't be catering to her abandonment problems, but you can be sympathetic and understanding, not have hard feelings and let the ball be in her court. I know it hurts, but I think you also understand your friend has limitations caused by her own mental state.