It sounds like your daughter may be in high school? It's good that your daughter talked about this with you. We don't have that many years when we can have a chance to help our young teens understand these challenges. They are older and getting more hormonal and independent, but they are still very young in a lot of ways yet.

I used the "Polly Mad Marcher" because it's easier for young teens to think about challenges this way. They tend to still be at the age where they can picture characters and think about behaviors that may confuse them. What you are trying to help them identify is a personality type that they will run across even when they are older. And you want them to ask these questions because they are now really developing their own identities and confidences. In essence you are preparing them for when they go off to college and WANT to handle more on their own.

High School is a much more intimate environment then our children encounter in college. We WANT our children to feel comfortable sharing their concerns with us as long we can before they venture to college. Even before High School, it's important to be able to be accessible to them. We do want them to feel they can learn to handle different situations on their own. But it's really nice when they share.

Often these Polly Mad Marchers did not have that kind of relationship with a parent. That is often the root to their developing their poor relationship behaviors.