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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I assume you have already given him a firm reality check, that you do not want to be his girlfriend and he is to take care of himself and leave you alone. If you did, then I would not respond to anything from him anymore. Responding only gives him an opening to keep reeling and starts it back up again. You cannot be just his friend either, because he cannot separate the difference. He’s out of control now.
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Last we left off I did tell him that I needed space and a break from the behavior that he was showing me and that we were, in no way, compatible beyond friends. Perhaps that was softshoeing it a little. After I got weak, I've limited my responses to things such as, I'm glad you're safe and unharmed. Please don't hurt yourself. Take care, goodbye.
I find his behavior and mindset utterly perplexing. Cognitively, I know it's BPD, but I can't wrap my mind around it. No amount of logic works and it was like being a bug in a blender every day.