Ah, I hadn't thought of other issues mixed in as well. You're right, it is obsessive and he has demonstrated violent behavior that was absolutely frightening.

He does. Unfortunately no, I don't have anywhere else to go at the moment. I thought about taking a long work trip overseas, but corona shut those down. My friends and family know the basics of what's going on and they're on the lookout. I do have a fairly robust security system. He has jokingly stated things like trying to sneak into my house, which does scare me. I don't think he was really joking.

There's one weird thing that he keeps coming back to, over and over. I'm not sure if this is part of any disorder or perhaps cultural. From the time he went from 0 to 60 to the voice mails and texts and emails he sends he keeps harping on his dream of being intimate with a white woman, particularly wanting to "cuck" a white man with a white woman. I spent a fair amount of time in Asia and the Middle East and blonde white women were the rage.

I do seem to draw some winners. I dated a guy once (and snuck out) who seemed nice and intelligent. He was a Ph.D candidate in engineering. Withing ten minutes of dinner he began asking detailed questions about my martial arts training. He then asked if I like "beating up men." Then, he asked if I would beat him up in a pit of mud. I started laughing, thinking he was joking, but he was serious and I could tell he was excited. I went to the bathroom and didn't stop there. The guy tracked me for five years...

I'm at 48 hours and holding strong. Thank you for the support. It feels like AA. Hi, I'm Alice, I haven't responded to L in 48 hours.