I'm not one who can tell you how to control it either, other than through a lot life work. I spent the majority of my life undiagnosed, with these feelings and desires, but being extremely sexually repressed from other factors. That combination was absolutely brutal on my mind and helped lead to my major break. I can only really say that it can't be done through suppression and denial, it needs to be a part of you treatment.

I am not being judgmental about you Therapist, because I do not know who she/he said it, but if they treat is as no big deal then you need to consider another therapist. It is a bid deal. As Razzleberry put it, it is a major red flag just as the other things they listed. Getting those things under control need to be a part of your treatment.

I do not say that as a moral stigma or anything like that, I am only saying that the goal of your treatment needs to be to allow you to control such impulses so that you can make you own decisions on what your life's actions will be, not allow your condition to cause you to do destructive things you will regret. This should, IMO, be a major goal of your treatment, and in one form or another is very much what we are all struggling with.