Ggirl..... ( you might think of changing your name btw).... I am confident that your life will turn around. Please do not take the situation with your ex personally. Clearly he has his owns demons to conquer. Just take the time to reflect and understand what went wrong in the relationship. Most men like porn to some degree. And most women hate it. But, it can get to the point where it is unhealthy. From a man's perspective porn is never a substitute for real intimacy that is based in love. But, some men can be driven to seek this out if the physical intimacy in their lives is not meeting their needs. I for one think that it is a cry for something that is missing in their lives. I would never want to look or even think about another women if I was with someone that fulfilled me completely.