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Old Mar 24, 2020, 05:01 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Lucky for you he only has a bicycle and I think the busses aren’t running due to the pandemic.

I had similar drama where the guy threatened self harm, but I just told them they need help and if they do it, it’s not my fault, and I didn’t let them manipulate me. Would he really walk in front of a bus? Most likely, no. If he did, then he was really sick. If he’d hurt himself that badly, what might he do to you? You are dealing with very scary stuff.

I’d keep someone around me at all times for the next few months and continue to not engage with him. If he was arrested, he is capable of being dangerous.

If you have a pattern of getting involved with this level of drama, I’d also see a therapist to find out more about yourself.

I’ve been diagnosed with borderline traits and emotional dysregulation disorder. I don’t have any behavior to this kind of level. I’m confused about how much is within me and how much is caused by my relationships. But that’s another story.

Firstly, you never had romantic feelings for him. So, it seems pretty logical to get rid of him. Making you his “baby making machine”?! Oh my! Very scary.
That's a good approach for when your person threatened self harm. Before I knew that was part of his issue I had already established a pattern of running to help him.

I'm definitely going to take your advice. I have more than a few male friends willing to look after me and a few very tough women.

I can imagine that it would be difficult to separate what comes from within and what comes from the relationship dynamic.

Oh, the whole baby factory thing. Wow. I'm happy with my two cats right now and my career comes first. His views on the "relationship" that we would have was positively medieval. I kept telling him to find a girl that would meet his needs and wanted to just stay home, make babies and serve his every need. Again, I'm the worst possible choice for him.
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Thanks for this!
TishaBuv