I found it discouraging to read about how "if you've betrayed your personal standards in some way" it might lead to self-punishing behaviors, self-loathing, oversleeping, overeating, smoking. Because i betray my personal standards at least once a year when i'm manic and have for 35 years and can dread a future where i do so many more times. I guess i'm just supposed to say, So i'm imperfect. I have a hard time with that. I also have a hard time forgiving my parents because they didn't think they did anything wrong. How do you forgive someone who didn't show remorse?