DechanDawa how you describe your siblings is eerily similar to what I deal with. My older sister is a major control freak and drama queen. She basically loads so much up with her "drama, drama, drama" and NEED to have control over everything. My sister literally markets anything she can to create her "drama, drama, drama".

My older brother is way different, he has the ability to pay attention and respect things I care about. He has really softened with age.