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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
DechanDawa how you describe your siblings is eerily similar to what I deal with. My older sister is a major control freak and drama queen. She basically loads so much up with her "drama, drama, drama" and NEED to have control over everything. My sister literally markets anything she can to create her "drama, drama, drama".
My older brother is way different, he has the ability to pay attention and respect things I care about. He has really softened with age.
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OMG You could be describing my older sister. Her entire life was about her drama, drama, drama, drama. BIG DRAMA. My sister was the Queen of Control Freaks.
Well, a few years ago my sister died. Even at the end she manipulated everything. She had ignored me (and my calls) for almost a decade...then suddenly she was back... and right in my face. I couldn't confront her...because she was...well, dying! So then she was calling me several times a week and it was all about her illness...and more drama, drama, drama. I was having all kinds of freaky things happening in my life and I just repressed everything to attend to her emotional needs. It was exhausting! By the end I was drained, and ended up quitting two jobs I loved because I was such a mess!
I can spend hours and hours going over my relationship with my sister, rewriting it. But the bottom line is I just wanted her love -and whatever she gave...was too little...too late. I have had PTSD over her death. And mixed emotions...anger...sadness...grief...blah, blah, blah.
The truth is she really behaved badly most of the time -- like a total *****. And now she's dead. And...I...am...so...sad...about...it.
Sigh. Let's not be like our sisters.
Let's leave good memories (mostly)!
