@Open Eyes , I appreciate your story so much because of how you handled it, how you taught your daughter to handle it, etc! These are the types of difficult people I am not sure how to handle. The ones who want me to agree with them, even when I disagree. The controlling ones. I would LOVE to be able to say "well you know, I disagree." Or "I think this instead". They take it as a personal offense and attack though. With people like this I really just keep my distance. A distant family friend is often saying negative things about ppl and just expects I'll go along with it "Or else," right? someday I'll get the guts to talk civilly yet very assertively to her. In the meantime, I keep my distance.

Thanks for sharing The Trauma Triangle. I have witnessed behaviors from other people online and irl along those lines.

Being completely honest here, I myself probably exhibited some of those behaviors and thinking patterns before I went into recovery (for mh). Though I do hope I did not hurt anyone, I most likely did. I got hurt a lot, too. I was more reactive at times, than anything else, and while I have a strong moral compass, and often said "I'm sorry I said that," I am just glad I got help.