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In my case, I see the abandoning authority ( pointed in the article as the fourth role) is the one I tend to repeat and I now see where it might come from.
An authoritarian and controller father while the other caretaker, my mother, kept silence. That is what makes me being so much protector and caring and even, to the extreme, kind of a justice warrior for the ones I think as sufferers. Although this last role may be the rescuer.
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Very good Azul, that is part of why I felt that posting the trauma triangle might help when feeling frustrated or even triggered. Often this originated in one's childhood experiences. It could be that as a child you watched your father be controlling with your mother and it upset you and you felt you had no voice in that dynamic. That can be the root that leads to one's social anxieties too.
From what you have shared, you can get triggered when you see exchanges that remind you of what you had no way of stopping when you were a child.
What would you consider an abandoning role you might play?