both need individual and couples therapy.
me and my partner are going through the same, but he's been watching porn for 10yrs he's been with me and then since he was a child before then.
He's made me think I'm going crazy to hide his secret and shame and guilt. Look up betrayal trauma, SAIT sexual addiction induced trauma, and complex ptsd.
You need to be seeing a therapist hun, to help you through this as much as he does, if not more so. because what he's inflicted on you is going to mess you up over the next few months and you need to know what you're going through.
I was hysterically screaming at my neighbour's dog to shut up through the wall because I'd had enough.
pm me if you want hun, could do with a friend in the same situation right now.