My little man (alot of you know I'm raising my nephew and and though I've been highly involved since his birth, I have had him full time since just before his second b'day...he's now 5 1/2) is now "reflecting"...reflecting on his childhood!

We've been riding in the car and he'll talk about something, then say, "Mommy, do you remember such and such? You'd say, 'Yes, Boo Boo, I do and wasn't that so beautiful?'" He'll then say, "You called me Boo Boo when I was little because you loved me and you still do because I'm your baby."

He's got these special memories that he's recalling. I think alot of this is because he's beginning to understand some things that have come with his own age-appropriate questioning.

Just about the time he decided to call me mommy instead of mom (when he started back into preschool and all the other mommies came to get their kids--he needed a mommy and I was that role), he asked, "Why did God put me with momma and daddy when I was borned anyway? I'm your son." which was also about the time he started saying his name as his first and last name, then adding mine and hubby's at the end...as his last name.

It's almost like he's gotten old enough to know that the pieces don't fit and he doesn't like it. He's created his own pieces to make it work for him.

I've been told that this is expected and OK, but he's determined that his mama had him in her belly for me. I told him he came from mama's belly and my heart, so I think he's even answered that for himself.

I don't correct his ideals at his age, because I know that, just like he'll learn that Santa and the tooth fairy isn't real, reality with this will become very clear. He *needs* this to fit, and be right for now.

My biggest prayer is that he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt at the time of awarenesses, that I couldn't love him more had I actually given birth to him...maybe more.

KD