Thank you, Luke, and I am so sorry about your father. I can imagine that was very difficult.

I do see what you are saying. One the one hand, he was very shy and introverted, but on the other hand he was the most arrogant person I know and that includes fighter pilots, doctors and lawyers. He was completely unable to empathize with my position in that I was saying to him that it was of no benefit whatsoever that I have a relationship with him. It would require me to divorce at great expense and then take in a guy with no skills, no income, no money and no education with whom I have vast differences with in terms of looks and physical fitness. He thought he struck a goldmine in having someone care for him entirely, financially, emotionally and physically. I would have to be physically available to him whenever the mood struck him and, in return, he would play his guitar in my home all day. What a deal! And then, I would have to bear one child after another to impress his family. He told his family he had it made, scoring a trophy girlfriend and his family was more than happy to pawn him off on me. I heard through the grapevine that his brother was delighted to get such an unstable influence out of their home and onto some unsuspecting fool. His narcissism alienated my entire family with his tantrums and name calling.

It's been over 100 hours now since I last responded. I'm away from home, but I glance through his hundreds of texts and emails per day. My voicemail is full and has been for a while now. It goes from ranting to sobbing to giggling to sexually explicit photos and videos of himself, demanding that I use them for myself. When I get back home I'm going to explore that TRO.

You are absolutely right. I'm hoping that he just burns himself out like a supernova.

Alice