There are many 'safer' meds to take during pregnancy. I don't know you but NO ONE has a perfect marriage and no mental health issues no matter what they say. If you want to do it plan it and do it. With or without your spouse. Plan it, research, be prepared. Do what you really want to and not half way because before you know it you will be an old fart like me. People with mental health issues are descriminated against in adoption. It won't be a choice. Make the plans and do what you need to. If you say I want to have a baby by the year 2012. Or something like that.

I am sorry. I seem to give advice when it's not asked for. Your post struck a cord. I wonder if you can just back off and let go of the stress with spouse. Just take care of yourself kinda? Hope I make sense here.