Dear SlumberKitty,
I can certainly identify with what you are going through. I went through something similar awhile back. Wish I had something useful to suggest but sadly I don't. The passing of time seemed to resolve things in my case although I was quite uncomfortable for quite awhile.
The human brain is so mysterious and seems to have a mind of its own sometime.
Hopefully people here who are more experienced, intelligent and wiser than I am will respond to your post with something helpful for you. So sorry you are going through all this. I hope everything eventually works itself out for you and results in the very best possible outcome!
Sincerely yours, -- Yao Wen