Another, clearer example maybe:

I'm scared I'm moving too slowly. It occurred to me that I could suggest to skip the session after next, to give myself some time to process things. However, I realised that in reality, I am afraid that she is feeling annoyed by my slow progress. So, in such a situation, she would ask me: And what is your feeling towards me?
And then logically, I think, it should be some form of anger: it wouldn't be fair for a therapist to feel annoyed at a client's slow progress (supposing that it's slow).
But what I really think and how I really feel about it is: it would be understandable if she would be annoyed, and only human. Plus, if she at least wouldn't express this annoyance towards me, what would be the problem? Of course it's too bad for me if she feels annoyed, but not something that I can or would be angry about.

So perhaps, somewhere in me, there would be anger or whatever other emotion about this, but I can't feel it. I only feel the emotions that attack me (sadness, frustration at myself), and not the emotions that 'attack' others (anger). And I think that she makes sense somewhere, that in reality I do have the latter, but I am very confused.

My former therapist would probably say all I do is analyse, and I am aware of that, but honestly I don't know how else to deal with this. The former T has been annoyed about this, but I've never noticed any sign of annoyance in my current T.