You're in the middle of a terrifying and uncontrollable situation. That is the definition of a traumatic experience. Trauma Therapy 101 says to support, comfort, and empathize until the traumatic situation is over and the person can start to process the experience (this is the stage when you need basic containment from the therapist). I think his comment about suffering might have been helpful if you had perceived it as such. Maybe it would have felt helpful if it had been a very gentle suggestion instead of a more blunt insight? But "defending your right to suffer" is needlessly critical phrasing. Of course you are suffering! Anybody who has read a news article about what it's like to be in a hospital right now knows that everybody there is suffering, if nothing else from primal fear and dread of what is to come.

I think your disappointment and anger are justified, but I admit I don't always agree with your T's style in the best of times. You don't need to be completely rational when you are overwhelmed by an overwhelming situation. It's okay to feel whatever you are feeling. Stay safe out there. Thank you for showing up and facing death every day while the rest of us get to "help" by watching Netflix at home.