I vote trust your gut. My T and I are very close and I know T gets upset by my trauma. Sometimes T shares his emotional reaction to my trauma when it benefits me. I can’t ever see T getting upset over a strangers reaction to my trauma unless it was harmful to me. It also bothers me that your T’s answer isn’t really an answer. It feels like T was feeling misunderstood and reacted to their feelings. IDK. You have done all the right things so I would be looking for a new T.