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Originally Posted by FluffyDinosaur
I would not consider this cheating either if my wife had said something like that. The way I see it sometimes you can't help developing feelings for someone else. I wouldn't blame my wife for that. I would only blame her if she then acted on those feelings.
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To the OP, exactly what Fluffy Dinosaur wrote above, in my case. If my husband thought any expression of me liking another guy, with no serious intensions, was cheating, I would be the most cheating woman in the PA/NJ/NY Tri-state area. Really! My hubby knows I have men around town that either I have mini crushes on or that have mini crushes on me. I even hug and kiss (on cheek) some of these guys, or they do so to me. I'm a flirt, for sure, but never "cheat".
My husband even knows how much I love my psychiatrist. Again, nothing has or will ever happen, but hubby teases me about it. He doesn't feel threatened, but I will say he is perhaps slightly jealous of this adoration for another man. Luckily, my husband is a very laid back guy. I do know that some men would take such things differently. I'm similar to him. My husband has some female friends, but I never worry that he would "cheat" on me with them, in the way I view cheating.