I didn't understand his comment as suggesting that chihirochild doesn't have a right to feel what she feels; rather that he was exploring what might be informing her response and how this internal experience might be impacting her behaviour. This is not the same as saying she should not feel something or that her response is faulty in some way. The fact that chihirochild did not find that exploration/suggestion helpful and wanted support of a different nature is totally valid, but this does not mean that the therapist's comments were invalid.