Since you did reach out, and they didn’t even read the message, I don’t know why that would be. Did they just not check their messages? Do they have something against you and not want to be in contact? I do think their not responding is strange. I’m sorry they don’t even give you support for your part in a hospital. Thank you for doing it!

I have had a struggle with being very disappointed in the lack of care from some of my alleged ‘loved ones’. It’s not that my expectations were too high. Their actions were ice cold. Trauma is the trigger for this repeating pattern for me.

In this pandemic, I sent a group email to the whole family and some of them responded. I then suggested we do a Zoom app group conference, which we did last night. It was cute and nice to just all say hello together and talk about how everyone is doing.

They all thanked me for organizing it and said it was nice and we should do it again.

So, here I am the one with issues, yet it was only me to step up and make the effort to connect. They were happy to do it.

The take away is perhaps, everyone is very selfish. They’re busy with their own issues and they don’t think to reach out to others. Doing it made me feel better about myself and gain some reassurance that my family is still somewhat of a unit.

I know what you mean about your sister being the point of contact. In my family, everyone talks to my mother, but I am not worthy of a call. She is the point of contact, and I guess they assume she will tell me, which she sometimes doesn’t. Or maybe they just don’t care to tell me. This is also a trigger from my whole life. I never mattered.

Yet, ultimately, it’s always me who has to step up and lead.