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Originally Posted by DechanDawa
I have been sort of voluntarily retired from age 61 until now, I am 66, and I am DONE with it. It is by far the worst period of my life. It is difficult if one does not have those "ordinary" placements such as spouse, grandkids etc. But I am really done with this. I didn't plan on getting sick and I didn't plan on Covid 19 but it has been a lesson. Social isolation is a tough nut. Look at your friend. She doesn't have the usual "placements" and it puts her in a sad place. Some of us might be too passive and accepting. I think it is kind of ironic that I have been feeling suicidally depressed...and now I am fighting to stay alive. My son lives thousands of miles away and all I really want is to move closer to where he lives. But to do that I have to survive Covid 19.
I can't believe I am fighting so hard to be able to take a freaking walk...when in truth I hate walking alone. It is sooooooo lonely to walk alone without a dog.
I need a new life and I think it has to include a dog. But first just to get through Covid 19. This is like living in a war. I am also going to work because I hate the word retirement and never again want to be "retired" from life.     |
I know, it’s tough now. But it’s temporary. Covid cannot go on forever. Things will go back to normal
Yes my friend is now in a situation where she is isolated but she just retired two months ago after 35 years of a very demanding full time career and she is not normally isolated. She is isolated now because she lives alone and can’t go no where due to corona. As soon as the virus is over she’d go back to our normal social life.
Several of my girlfriends and couple of my colleagues have never been married and aren’t dating, yes I suspect they might get lonely but they live full life otherwise. I myself got married at 50.
You’d be surprised how many people spend their whole life single. Or they become widows/widowers and never date again. Or never had children etc Yes it’s bad during pandemics but when things are normal, they still live their lives.
When corona is finished, maybe you are right you can work part time. Retirement is great but not if you can’t afford it (and most people can’t) if you didn’t save enough. My dad is 82. He has a small part time that gets him out of the house. Your local senior center and community center have activities, you could try to make friends there. You don’t need to be isolated just because you aren’t married.
All of this craziness will come to end soon and you can make some positive changes in your life.