You had not encouraged him romantically, but it escalated to the level it did. I hope he backs off and grows to understand you never had feelings for him, and he accepts it.

I did have a relationship, but then I decided it wasn’t working and broke it off.

I think a ‘normal’ person feels hurt when broke up with, but doesn’t angrily stalk and harass, accepts it, and moves on. I know I handled it that way when I got dumped. I cried, accepted it, felt hurt and angry, and left them alone. This emotional violence is scary.

I was worried he would come after me physically. Luckily, no man ever has physically hurt me (except one smacked me across the face once, another story where I acted stupidly).

Ignoring the red flags was important for you to reflect upon. Why did you choose to not notice them? Why did I think his saying things that showed he was delusional were okay? I told myself it would be okay? Why?

After psychotherapy, it has been bantered around that it is I who has a personality disorder. It is because of relationship dynamics like I’m talking about here that got me the diagnosis. I’ll admit, there was something lacking in me as to why I picked up with people I knew would not be good for me. I married someone I thought seemed so good for me, but this struggle has been the worst. There’s something wrong with me when it comes to intimacy. Therapy never helped. I’m more confused and dysfunctional now than ever.

Even this guy we speak about, he occasionally friend requests me on facebook after I blocked him ten years ago. I just let it haunt me.