But chiro didnt ask to reschedule an appointment. Right? You (chiro) tried to warn him ahead of time. Thats like saying, you cant be mad at me because i warned you ahead of time, so THATS trying to control the outcome, trying to make it a FAIR outcome for yourself. Why? Dont you trust him to be fair to you? I think THATS what hes calling you out on. That you ACT worried that you have to prepare him, because he is such an ogre. I dont think you REALLY feel HE is the ogre. Your family is kinda ogreish, you cant really get reasonable treatment from them. But he is not them, so its transference, so thats what he is pointing out.

I think its not so much the BEING controlling, its the trust, its the why? Controlling is not the insult it seems to be. Boy i wish i had seen this about 40 years ago.