For me attachment to T means that:

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[*]I ruminate about everything he says [*]I want him to understand me no matter what and I try over and over to get him to get me because his attunement is worth it.[*]he tries the same because he knows how important it is for both of us and lets me know[*]I adore him[*]I trust his judgement[*]I FEEL SAFE IN HIS PRESENCE[*]I have fantasies about him holding me[*]I never, ever miss an appointment[*]I feel lost when he is away[*]I think about him all throughout my day[*]I am healthier because of our relationship[*]I write to him and about him[*]He cares about me[*]He cares about my family[*]He cares about all of me
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Sheesh, I could go on and on forever.

Peace